Don't you love periods of transition? They're crazy. And it doesn't always have to do with outer changes, it often has everything to do with inner changes. That's what I'm going through now.
I tried to explain it to my mom. I told her that sometimes everything we see, which impacts the way we experience the lives we are living, can totally, and radically change. I must say, I really suck at communicating with my mom. I love her to death, but we just don't think the same. I explain something to her, and she just doesn't get it. It's the same when she tries to explain stuff to me.
For those of you who don't know me, though, I'm an ultra-radical person. I'm not gonna lie. I am totally, utterly intellectual, and I can't sit still when anything is wrong. If someone is hurt, I won't sleep until I figure out why. I do understand that sometimes I can't do anything about it, but I won't relax until I know what they can do to help themselves. Because I don't believe that anyone should hurt. I believe we are all here, on Earth, to learn how to NOT hurt.
Why? Because we come here, to Earth and life, and all we know is how we feel. We learn what's right and wrong through how we feel. We know that when we stick out hands on a hot stove, it hurts like hell. So that's bad. We know that drinking water on a hot summer day feels good. So it must be good.
And, as we well know, it gets a lot more complicated than that. Let's take sex for example. I am not EVER going to say sex is bad or good. It is entirely circumstancial. However, a fourteen year old having sex might experience a situation of bad sex. In the moment (if they're lucky) it feels damn good. Then what? The feelings. The heartbreak. The possibility of sexually transmitted diseases, and pregnancy. The fact is, in that situation, sex isn't what is bad. Sex is intimate, and often fourteen year olds are vulnerable. They don't know who they are. They don't have a sense of identity yet, not enough to get that intimate with someone. Girls of that age often don't know what they want, either, as far as sexuality goes. It's really complicated, obviously. My main point, though, is that the pain isn't always black and white, or obvious. Painful situations often tempt people to come closer to them, by dangling the feel-good aspect of them like bait. Sex feels good. So does pleasing a guy. Therefore, young girls might find themselves in that trap. They soon find, however, that the results can very well be painful.
And guess what? All this pain we feel is telling us we're doing something wrong. I hate to say it like that. It doesn't mean that I don't have compassion for those experiencing pain. Because that is SO not true. But...I'm an optimist! And there is a way to fix any sort of pain. ANY. I really believe that. Because I admit that I don't know everything, I can't say exactly how to fix every sort of pain. Truth be known, I only know how to fix pain that I've fixed for myself. Obviously, if I'm experiencing some sort of pain, I don't know how to fix it. Here's what I do know.
Meditation and prayer feel good. Negative thoughts don't. Talking behind someone's back doesn't feel good, and nor do the results of doing such a thing. Telling people how you honestly feel does. Facing the truth often brings good results. Hiding from it doesn't. Optimism equals ecstasy. Judgement is anguish. These may seem blatently obvious, but I don't really have the time to mention all I've learned!
Anyway, my mom and I are drastically different. She isn't an intellectual...I mean she is, but not the way I am. I analyze EVERYTHING--obviously. This is me on a tired day. She is very down-to-Earth. She RULES, though! I love her! I think we have been put in one-another's paths so we can learn a TON, because we both have a ton to learn from one-another. While it gets tough sometimes, we will really benefit. Overcoming tough stuff means a ton in life! Just so ya know. That's what it's all about. SO when the goin' gets tough, just remember, all you have to do is overcome it, and you're living life the way it's supposed to be lived!
